Sharing Secrets to Successful Marriage of 44 Years

Today, Chris and Carol Green celebrate their 44th Wedding Anniversary.

"Forty-four years ago, we got our license and were married by a judge on December 29, 1980 in Tulsa, OK. (That was Part 1). Five days later we were married in a church, standing before family and friends in St. Louis, MO. on January 3, 1981 (That was Part 2)." the couple shares.

"Nine months before we got married, we were almost killed in a car accident. A drunk driver ran a red light, hit us, and flipped our car. So when we got married, we had a different appreciation for life and one another. Even though we had arguments, conflict, confusion, craziness and discontentment like any other couple; For us, divorce was never an option."

The Greens share their incredible story and their three secrets in a book they published on Amazon Books in July of 2011 titled We Made a PACT.

Now it is a 5-star rated publication with amazing reviews:

I started reading the book and I couldn't put it down. Normally when I read a book, I'm a picker. I pick the chapters that I want to read, but I never read the whole book. Once I started it (We Made a PACT), I read the whole book and I sat there and said, "O' God, absolutely, completely, YES!" ---Raleigh, Harrisburg, PA

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I highly recommend that everyone, including every married couple get this book. Every married couple needs a checkup now and then. Get this for your check up. Everyone who does premarital counseling should get this book. Anyone who is thinking about getting married should get this book. Teenagers should get this book.

It's a raw, transparent look at the beginnings of a couple's courtship and marriage, the difficulties encountered, and how through principles of wisdom codified in a PACT, caused them to finally lay a good foundation for marriage. It's not a normal topical book on marriage. It's a peak, as a fly on the wall, into someone else's process that will impact you in the end. ---Ancil, Trinidad

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I read "We Made a PACT" and started crying on page 16. Thank you, Chris & Carol for writing. Precious and impactful. ---L.F., New York

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At times I will start a book and read only a few chapters. I just want to let you know, I stopped for coffee and I had your book (We Made a PACT). I started reading it. I finished half of the book at the coffee shop. I just finished the rest. Your book is the first book I've finished, ever. It was awesome. It will change my life. I cried reading the first few chapters and the last few. I can go on and on. I have told people about the book before I finished it. Again, it is an awesome book. Maybe I can read it again with my husband. If not, I know this book was for me. God continue to bless you, keep you and guide you. ---Charlene, St. Louis, MO

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"Your book, We Made a PACT, was/is one of the most insightful materials about marriage I've ever laid my hands on." ----Aloise, Ft. Smith, Arkansas

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To those who love to read about relationships, this book will be a page turner. However, for those who like to apply what they read, the highlighter and notepad will be required. Chris and Carol Green have written a jewel, with remarkable transparency, to those who desire to establish great, Godly relationships with the depth and complexity needed to last forever. ---Chrys Yvette, Los Angeles, CA

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Thought provoking! Enlightening! Tasteful transparency! If there is only one thing you can do to invest in the health and future of your marriage this year, let it be the purchase of this book! It's a must read for the married and all who desire to be! Awesome! 100% real!!! ---Mike and Mary, St. Louis, MO

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It was so powerful that I could not put it down until I was done. And I promise to share my learning to others and take the accountability that others will know God's will. Thank you Chris and Carol. ---Wanida, Las Vegas, Nevada

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I wanted to let you know how much your book (We Made a PACT) blessed my soul! You guys are AWESOME and I wanted to personally thank you for allowing God to use you for HIS GLORY. You blessed ME/others by allowing ME/us a glimpse as your journey through life! You all are such gifted individuals who love the Lord dearly (it shows through your obedience & your transparency) - which is the TRUTH of the Word of God that you live and share with others!! This book DID/will cause a mighty break through and advance ME/us to the purpose that God has planned for each of our lives. Truth sets the soul FREE!! Again, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!! ---Stephanie, Kansas City, MO

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Order this life-impacting book on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/dp/1463605307

Mental Health Advocates and CARE-Readiness Coaches Promote God's Process of Success

"We were leading while bleeding and hardly anyone knew," write the mental health advocates and CARE-Readiness coaches. "Eventually, we were forced to stop, rest, retreat and reset because success is not only about what you will accomplish. Ultimately it’s about who you will become."

In their life-impacting (Amazon 5-star rated) book, Rest, Retreats, Revival and Other Comedies, subtitled You are Success in Process, Chris and Carol Green talk about the consequences for anyone who chases dreams without discernment, plans a future without God's wisdom, or neglects the stewardship of physical, mental and emotional wellness; especially during and after life-altering critical incidents. They share how God's process eventually led them out of those traps and into healing and wholeness. Their true identity and purpose was rediscovered when they learned how to:

 

Rest in God and get out of the world's grind mindset; 

Retreat after devastating setbacks and disappointments; 

Revive and reset to come back out fighting again; and to be open, honest and humbled by the 

Comedy of Errors; the mistakes and bad decisions, upon which God extended mercy and grace.

"This book isn't for everyone," the Greens affirm, "It's for that person who is sick and tired of projecting a fake image of confidence and bravery, while masking their deep disappointment behind superficial spirituality.  It's for the person who is no longer looking for a typical self-help manual, filled with inspirational stories and motivational meditations. THIS is the book for that soul who is ready to challenge their core beliefs about why their life keeps going off the rails, to stop blaming 'the devil' for everything that goes wrong, and truly desires to finally break FREE from the unending cycles of dead-ends, defeat and discouragement.

We put ourselves out there, made ourselves vulnerable and accessible, and exposed our true authentic hearts; and when people took advantage of our kindness and compassion, or questioned our competency, motivations, loyalty and integrity, yes, we were taken aback, hurt, and offended (which we hate to admit), and it triggered our introvert instincts to just go home and close the door.

We reached our breaking points when the pressures and challenges began to affect our marriage; when they began to affect our physical and mental health; when insinuations and accusations from outside forces and entities, advanced far beyond mere words spoken against us, to actual intentional actions taken against us that had real life-impacting consequences.

So, we would retreat. And it would be complete pullback moments, cutting off almost everything and everyone (the guilty, the innocent, the perpetrators, and the by-standers). We were in survival mode, burnout and compassion fatigue. But even those triggered-withdrawal responses were part of our process.

We learned that you can't ignore the painful affects of crisis, fatigue or trauma by trying to press forward anyway, or by trying to be who and what others may want you to be for them. We had to rediscover who God actually always intended for us to be for Him."

From the Book's Foreword:

This book is a revelation on how to understand change. It lays out the truth about "process", as productive lives are always on a journey of constant growth and change. To stop growing and changing is to die. 

The Greens are top Searcherdemcians who are not afraid to take new paths to help lift and better humanity. They are not scared to be Searchers of a new way of doing things and because of this, they are fruitful.

They have gone through growth, death, and rebirth, while leading in a new philosophy of education for which the world is crying out. 

I've had the privilege of knowing and working with the Greens for nearly a decade.  I have observed their approach and can vouch for their genuineness and productivity. They have diligently worked, scraped, and sacrificed their way to top stages of influence.     

I say, "When all else fails, follow the fruit." Chris and Carol Green are good fruit and have produced tangible evidence and results of their life skills theory, "You are Success in Process." 

In this book, you are sure to find where you are "in your process."  You are sure to find your next step.  You will be encouraged and reassured that you are not alone in your journey.  You will find that you are "God's Success in Process." 

How refreshing is that?!

This is a riveting book that has inspired and impacted my life. 

You will already be succeeding by picking it up.

---Chancellor Michal P. Pitzl,    

United Graduate College and Seminary, Int’l

Available on Amazon Books

Advocating for a Revolution in Hearts and Homes

As America and the world brace for another critical round of elections, Chris and Carol Green have reproduced an assembly of powerful prayers and purposeful strategies that can help families rebuild, restore and renew their hearts and homes in spite of the relentless challenges that they face everyday in these evil and perilous times. 

Chris and Carol write: 

Where do our families fit in the grand scheme of the emerging American Social and Political Revolution? 

We are caught in the cross-fires of economic, social, political, educational and religious wars; while standing on the brink of despair due to neighborhood crime, domestic violence, drug abuse and child trafficking; along with overwhelming outbreaks of mental illness, an epidemic of multiple STDs, the diminishing of parental rights, systemic racism, critical race theories, and an endless list of politically-correct agendas that are buried within current human service and education programs. 

This book, which was originally published in 2015, may surprise you because it does not offer a list of the many ways that traditional families can fight for their rights, freedoms or protection through rallies, politics, protest or marches. Instead, it is a marvelous diary of the same profound, God-ordained strategies and lessons, that have equipped and empowered believers for centuries; filled with the knowledge and wisdom to navigate these challenges from their own homefronts, literally. 

Over the span of three decades, the Greens have worked to convey a Kingdom-of-God-perspective regarding men, women, husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, marriage and family, even though it pushes against a pervasive tsunami of 21st century views, perversions and philosophies that has been embraced by many in society.

"You don’t have to read through the chapters in any particular order," the Greens advise.  "Just allow God’s Spirit to lead you through the writings. We are certain that these life inserts will speak directly to your heart and build your faith as you seek God about your family's purpose and Kingdom destiny."

You might think of this book as a collection of the Green's most significant Kingdom downloads, because this compilation truly reveals the heart of God regarding family, and gives you precisely what you'll need to launch an internal revolution that will rebuild, restore and renew your heart and home. 

Available on Amazon Books at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D7BLL6S1

Jane E. Green Legacy Scholarship Officially Launched

The Jane E. Green Scholarship was established to honor the life and legacy of a woman of God, wife, mother, and grandmother who was an undercover special force agent and soldier who impacted thousands throughout her life as a Bible teacher, and through her home-and-prayer-focused ministry.

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She was one who never sought after or even needed the spotlight in order to run her race and complete her course in teaching the word of God and imparting wisdom for marriage and family relationships (married 70 years).

 

Together, she and her husband (James) served for decades in several ministry of helps roles in their various homes, neighborhoods, and local churches where they were members. Most notably, she made a profound impact on countless hundreds of children in the urban community through Child Evangelism Fellowship's Good News Clubs and Discipleship Programs; and they hosted a weekly prayer gathering for teenagers and young adults in their home.

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In 1987, she helped pioneer the Metropolitan Christian Worship Center with her eldest son and daughter-in-love (Raphael and Brenda Green) where she served in various ministerial roles: Director of Altar Workers and Follow-up Ministries; Director of a ministry to senior women in the church; led the Christian Education Department; and completed her tenure as a staff pastoral advisor minister and staff teaching minister.

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She earned associate degrees in Biblical Studies, Christian Education, and Christian Counseling at the Brooke's Bible Institute. Additionally she earned a degree as a licensed practical nurse - a field she loved and served in for more than a decade.

 

Her legacy is so profoundly simple. Trust and obey, for there’s no other way…

She knew that people were trying to do the best they could with what they had; but her philosophy was,

“Let God give you the best that He has for you.”

She often said, “My only desire was for my children to know and love Jesus; and live their lives for Him.

I didn’t ask God to make them famous; my only prayer was that they would be faithful.” 

 

She had 7 children, 13 grand children, and 22 great-grandchildren.​

All of her children committed their lives to Christ at an early age, and as young adults, each of them entered the ministry or the marketplace with the same passion and focus as their mother.

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Tributes from her Family

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She passed away in September of 2024, but we will continue to carry her name, cause and contributions through scholarships that will enable Believers to have access to solid and sound Biblical teaching, wisdom and instruction.

View Scholarship on the STEP Forward Life Institute HERE

Launch Responding with CARE Podcasts

Chris and Carol commemorate their journey over the last 20 years by sharing lessons learned, and by interviewing some of the extraordinary people who have responded to their communities with CARE.

Click HERE to Access all podcasts at RESPONDING WITH CARE PODCAST

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